Vaughan's Getting Married

This summary covers an interview with Vaughan Shepherd, conducted by Gareth Watkins in Auckland, Aotearoa New Zealand. The discussion centers around Shepherd's reflections on the upcoming ceremony with a long-term partner, Shane, and explores the broader context of civil unions and marriage, particularly for same-sex couples, during the 2000s and 2010s.

Shepherd, coming from a conservative Christian background, recounts the initial stir caused by coming out to a large, otherwise supportive family. For 13 years, Shepherd and Shane built a life together, and Shepherd navigates through the conversation the distinctions between a civil union and marriage. They perceive marriage as a deeper affirmation of their relationship, a sentiment only partly addressed by the Civil Union Act of 2004. Shepherd also comments on the struggle to reconcile Christian beliefs with their identity, highlighting a belief in the sanctity of union, regardless of orientation, and emphasizing love shared within the couple's relationship and among their friends and family.

Reflecting on the past, Shepherd remarks on personal growth since the first significant relationship and the evolution of their views on commitment and partnership before meeting Shane. Shepherd describes their initial courtship and the gradual deepening of their bond, noting considerable changes in social and personal acceptance of same-sex relationships over the years.

The conversation discusses terminology and the legal implications of civil unions versus marriage, with a recognition of the differing levels of social acceptance each holds. Shepherd addresses the influence of conservative religious groups, like Destiny Church, and empathizes with those wrestling with their views on same-sex unions. They emphasize the transformative power of love and acceptance within their family, particularly their mother's shift from opposing gay relationships based on religious beliefs to wholeheartedly supporting their partnership.

Throughout the discussion, Vaughan Shepherd explores the intricacies of identity, internalized homophobia, and the challenges faced by LGBTQ+ individuals in finding acceptance both from others and within oneself. They stress the importance of visibility and normalization for the younger generation, revealing a journey that includes coping with suicidal thoughts as a teenager to now, proudly preparing for a soon-to-be marriage.

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