Tony Smith(October 2013)

The podcast "Tony Smith profile" features Tony Smith discussing their life experiences touching upon themes of family, sexuality, and self-discovery. Tony grew up in a conservative, traditional family environment in the Hutt Valley near Wellington, with two younger siblings. Their childhood in the 1950s was marked by outdoor play and a strong division of labor in their family, where the mother handled domestic tasks and the father was the breadwinner.

Tony did not have any awareness of homosexuality during their childhood or even in their secondary school years, with the concept of being gay seemingly nonexistent in their community. It wasn't until their fifties, while married with children and experiencing isolation within the marriage, that they began to explore their sexuality.

An epiphany came to Tony during a business conference in Auckland. Curious about what it would be like to have sex with another man, Tony responded to a personal ad, leading to a momentous experience that put their marriage at risk. As their desire and liaisons with other men grew stronger, they eventually came to the realization that they had to confront their identity and come out as gay—a process that began with their spouse and extended to other family members and friends.

The process of coming out, despite its emotional difficulty, was met with considerable understanding and acceptance, with Tony describing the reactions of their family and close friends. For instance, their children responded positively to the revelation, and over time, even their ex-wife and current partner have formed an amicable relationship.

Throughout the conversation, Tony reflects on how their sexuality is just one facet of their life, not wanting to be defined or labeled solely on the basis of being gay. They have a multifaceted identity that includes roles as a grandparent, an art and design teacher, a traveler, and an active member of their local community.

Despite what could be perceived as a late recognition of their sexuality, Tony maintains an optimistic and proactive stance on life. They do not perceive a significant difference in aging as a gay person compared to non-gay individuals, asserting that age is not a barrier to exploring new pursuits and experiences. Instead, Tony emphasizes the pursuit of personal fulfillment and new challenges, regardless of one's stage in life and sexual orientation.

Tony's narrative is one of gradual self-realization, personal acceptance, and the continuous search for happiness and authenticity. Their story is situated in the broader context of societal norms and changes pertaining to sexuality and family life within Aotearoa New Zealand. The interview concludes with Tony contemplating the richness of their present life in Napier, expressing satisfaction with an array of interests ranging from the visual arts to participation in local theatrical productions, alongside their family engagements.

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