Hamish(May 2014)

In this podcast, titled "Hamish - South" and recorded in Christchurch, Canterbury in May 2014, the speaker shares their experiences regarding their sexual orientation as part of the LGBTQ+ community. They discuss the personal realization of being gay around the age of 15, the challenges faced, especially during high school, where coming out was not an option due to the negative attitudes and bullying towards openly gay classmates. The decision to come out after completing college was influenced by the need to develop self-confidence and to be prepared for potential negative responses from others.

After revealing their sexual orientation to friends and family, the speaker experienced a mix of reactions. Many friends were lost due to resistance to change, while some family members were supportive, but not all, including a sibling who assaulted them after they came out. The speaker also touches upon the societal attitudes toward the LGBTQ+ community, noting instances of homophobia and transphobia within Christchurch. Efforts to avoid confrontational situations and discriminatory individuals were mentioned, and the interviewer explores whether the speaker felt it more challenging to be gay in the South Island compared to the North.

The conversation also delves into school health education and its shortcomings in addressing issues relevant to the LGBTQ+ community. This includes the lack of information about safe sex and the unique social dynamics within same-sex relationships. They recall a poignant exercise from their final year of high school that explored the concept of heterosexuality as an anomaly, providing a brief but insightful shift in perspective among their classmates.

Professionally, the speaker pursued engineering and now works as a designer of chocolate boxes, expressing that they are treated as the "token" gay person at work which leads to different forms of humor directed towards them. In the community, their involvement with a queer youth group called Qtopia is highlighted as important for building a sense of belonging amid societal advancements in LGBTQ+ rights.

The impact of social media on connecting queer people, often for sexual purposes, is discussed, and the speaker expresses a preference for more organic social interactions over using apps or websites for relationship-seeking. They also reveal their views on the passage of the Marriage Amendment Act (2012), reflecting positively on equal marriage rights and considering the personal relevance to their future.

The podcast touches upon the role of the media in stereotyping gay individuals and the desire for more diverse and realistic representation in culture and entertainment. Within the gay community, they observe classism and the compartmentalization of individuals into subcultures like "twinks," "bears," and "otters." Mentorship within the community, such as having a "goach" (gay coach), is presented as a significant form of support for navigating social and safety aspects of queer life.

In closing, advice for young gay high schoolers struggling with their identities is provided, emphasizing the importance of finding acceptance within safe circles and the value of self-discovery. The speaker hopes for more tolerating and indifferent societal attitudes towards queer individuals and visualizes greater advancement in the next decade, building on the tremendous progress witnessed over the last few years.

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