In this podcast Felix talks about identifying as gender queer.
This podcast was made possible through generous support from the Rule Foundation
Summary
In the recorded podcast titled "Felix - South," conducted in Christchurch, Canterbury on May 12, 2014, the speaker discusses their gender queer identity, a term indicating a gender identity that does not adhere to conventional binary gender norms. The content of the candid conversation encompasses the complexities of navigating society with this identity, particularly in the 2010s.
For the individual in the recording, being gender queer means having a personal connection to gender that doesn't conform to traditional categories of male and female. The journey to this self-realization began in adolescence and continued to evolve over time, shaped by experiences and learning, including attending pride festivals and joining queer communities, both in the United Kingdom and upon moving to New Zealand.
Throughout the exchange, the challenges of communicating one's gender queer identity to others are noted, especially in transient environments like a workplace bar. While close friends and trusted colleagues might understand and respect this aspect of identity, even well-intended peers can struggle with consistency, and the emotional labor of continuous explanation to new acquaintances is often tiresome.
The speaker also reflects on the difficulties confronted in the education system. During school years in the UK, openly expressing gender identity often led to a hostile environment, compelling the decision to share this aspect only within tight-knit friendship circles. The experience in New Zealand was more positive, with greater openness and acceptance.
Instances of homophobia and transphobia are recounted, highlighting negative comments and insufficient institutional support. However, the interviewee mentions an encouraging initiative where their school implemented a “swear box” to discourage discriminatory language, which suggests some progress.
Throughout the podcast, the role of social media and communities in providing support and connection is emphasized. Platforms like Facebook, with its inclusive gender identifier options, and Tumblr play significant roles in fostering relationships and affirming identities.
Despite the progress, the individual recognizes room for improvement in the media's representation of queer and trans people, which often involves stereotypes that don't accurately reflect the diversity of experiences in these communities.
Education on gender and sexuality in schools is mentioned as a positive step but is described as rudimentary, underscoring the need for more comprehensive curriculum that extends beyond just the basics of gender identities.
The conversation wraps up with insights on visions for the future, including hopes for broader knowledge, respect, and acceptance within society in ten years. The importance of community is reiterated, alongside a message of resilience for young people going through similar identity struggles.
The podcast ends by highlighting the relative safety and minimal discrimination experienced in New Zealand when compared to the UK, which the speaker attributes to the decidedly more accepting atmosphere for gender queer individuals.
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