Delilah(May 2014)

This summary provides an overview of a podcast conversation with Delilah, who reflects on the experience of being gay in a high school in New Zealand during the 2010s. Delilah begins by discussing the multifaceted nature of identity, indicating that while being gay is a part of who they are, it is amongst many other identities such as being a student, musician, and Māori. The conversation explores the shift towards more open discussions around identity and the increased acceptance and willingness of society to engage in such conversations.

Delilah discovered their sexual orientation around the age of 11 or 12, but did not fully acknowledge it until they were 14. The environment they grew up in was accepting, with an immediate family that included gay members and a support network of friends. This contrasts with the lack of formal education about the LGBTQ+ community during their schooling, which was supplemented by an accepting home environment.

Upon accepting their sexuality, Delilah experienced a range of reactions while coming out to friends and family. Delilah mentions an instance when a friend, whom they were nervous to tell due to the friend's Christian beliefs, accepted them unconditionally. Delilah's parents, though not formally informed, are described as having an unspoken awareness of Delilah's orientation. A broader family acceptance has yet to occur.

The podcast touches on Delilah's high school experience, shifting from a larger high school where no openly LGBTQ+ students were visible, to one known for its diversity and acceptance. At the new school, an affirming tone was set from the outset, with a dean's message emphasizing inclusivity as a core value. Yet, Delilah still observes instances where fear or lack of education around LGBTQ+ issues lead to indirect exclusions, such as not being able to use their video for a school project.

Delilah also discusses an engagement in politics and activism, particularly around the marriage equality campaign. They share their experience of creating a video supporting the cause, which gained visibility and furthered the discussion nationally.

The conversation underscores the importance of community and finding support through various means, including involvement in LGBTQ+ groups in Christchurch and engagement with LGBTQ+ politicians in the city. The exploration of learning about sexuality and gender in an educational setting highlights a proactive approach in schools like Delilah's, which offer gender studies classes.

Moreover, Delilah expresses their thoughts on the importance of having a term like "takatāpui" in the Māori culture, which provides a way for Māori LGBTQ+ individuals to relate to their identity in a culturally specific way.

The podcast illuminates the role of media in representing LGBTQ+ communities, noting some progress but also persisting stereotypes that require ongoing attention. Additionally, Delilah reflects on how social media and the internet have opened new avenues for connection and dissemination of information, while also acknowledging associated risks such as bullying.

In looking to the future, Delilah hopes for a society that not only tolerates but embraces LGBTQ+ individuals. They call for increased awareness and action from politicians on issues affecting these communities, including the education system and the high rates of LGBTQ+ youth suicide. Delilah envisions a more inclusive and understanding New Zealand in ten years' time.

Delilah's closing advice to young people struggling with their sexuality is a message of hope and perseverance. The conversation ends with Delilah emphasizing the value they find in being part of the LGBTQ+ community in New Zealand, cherishing the sense of belonging and the ability to contribute positively to change. The podcast thus paints a nuanced picture of the experiences, challenges, and aspirations of a young LGBTQ+ individual navigating identity and acceptance in a changing social landscape.

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