Amelia(May 2014)

In this podcast titled "Amelia - South," the speaker discusses personal experiences of bullying, homophobia, and sexism encountered in Dunedin, Otago during the 2010s, specifically within flatting and school environments. The speaker addresses the complexity of identity, noting the struggle with being labeled as a lesbian, a term with negative connotations from past experiences. Despite societal shifts toward more inclusive language for sexual orientation, the speaker expresses disdain for the word's derogatory use by peers.

The podcast touches upon the speaker's early realization of same-sex attraction and the subsequent denial and suppression faced due to societal pressures and assertions that it was merely a phase. This denial and the hope to eventually conform to heteronormative expectations continued through high school till a candid awakening in the first year of university led to the speaker's coming out.

The speaker details the initial lack of family support post-disclosure. Notably, a confrontation with the family left the speaker feeling disowned but found strength in a supportive partner. School experiences were marred by insufficient support against bullying and an ineffective counselor. The speaker tried to create a Queer Straight Alliance, but that effort did not pan out well due to a lack of privacy and support, highlighting the need for safer spaces and better mentorship within the school environment.

During university, the speaker faced homophobia within a residence hall—encountering homophobic slurs and receiving inadequate support from resident advisors. The podcast emphasizes the importance of finding confidence and support networks while combating covert bullying, especially through social media.

The speaker discusses past relationships, the effort to establish queer support groups, and the challenges of maintaining friendships within the queer community. The speaker also recounts the experience of being verbally abused in a flatting situation, indicative of the underlying homophobic and sexist issues that persisted after high school.

Moreover, the speaker elaborates on the complexities and stereotypes surrounding queer identities in dominant narratives, media portrayals, and local mindsets—especially in smaller communities in the South Island of New Zealand.

Reflection on the passage of the Marriage Amendment Act (2012) brings hope to the speaker. The legalization of same-sex marriage is considered a milestone, not only emotionally but also in terms of legal implications for adoption and child custody. The speaker expresses dreams for the future, including having children through emerging reproductive technologies that would allow both partners to genetically contribute to their child.

The podcast closes with words of encouragement for others facing similar challenges, emphasizing that life improves with time and the realization of self-worth. The speaker advises against keeping secrets from family and underscores the value of openness.

Finally, a trigger warning is issued for an account of a sexual assault. The speaker reveals a painful past experience of rape, attributed partly to homophobia, and the burden of self-blame that followed. The importance of talking about these experiences and seeking support, as well as recognizing one's strength and value, is emphasized.

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