Shelley Te Waiariki Howard

This podcast features an interview with Shelley Te Waiariki Howard, who speaks about their experiences in the military during the time of homosexual law reform in New Zealand. Recorded in Lower Hutt, Aotearoa New Zealand, Howard shares insights into the personal journey of repressing and later expressing femininity, as well as the significance of human connection through a simple hug. The narrative spans across several decades from the 1980s to the 2010s, highlighting pivotal moments in Howard's life against the backdrop of societal and legislative changes regarding homosexuality, specifically the Homosexual Law Reform Act.

Howard recalls being part of the New Zealand Defence Force's Territorial Force Unit and later working at the Ministry of Defence during the early discussions of homosexual law reform. Despite being close to the legislative action geographically, Howard felt detached, living a life adhering to heteronormative expectations. The discussion touches on the challenges of self-discovery and the particular admiration they had for a colleague whose name Howard later takes on.

They candidly discuss the internal conflict felt while observing the reform as someone deeply enmeshed in the military culture, which was generally unsupportive of homosexuality. Howard sheds light on the pervasive fears and misconceptions within the military about the implications of homosexual individuals serving openly. Through conversations in the wider community, there were shifts in attitudes, offering some counterbalance to the negative perceptions held within military ranks.

A significant portion of the interview discusses the power dynamics and challenges within the queer and transgender communities, notably the introspection and struggle for identity that Howard faced. The discussion illuminates the importance of self-acceptance and engagement with the broader community in establishing a support network.

In an act of social experimentation and activism, Howard describes standing in public spaces with a sign inviting people to hug them as an expression of respect and acceptance. This experiment seeks to test societal tolerance and demonstrate humanity's capacity for warmth and acceptance, and it also serves as a platform to raise awareness of the experiences and challenges faced by transgender youth.

Howard emphasizes that through both personal and collective actions, such as contributing back to the community and providing support for homeless and queer individuals, it is essential to engage with and uplift every member of the society. The conversation also notes that despite hardships, including strained family relationships, living authentically has brought a diverse range of remarkable people into Howard's life.

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