In this podcast James talks about being young and gay in 2012.
Summary
In the 2012 podcast recording "James - Q12" from Napier, Hawkes Bay, the conversation explores the personal experiences and societal perspectives of a young individual navigating life and identity as part of the LGBTQ+ community during the 2010s. The podcast guest dropped out of school at 16 and speaks candidly about various aspects of their life, from simple pleasures such as drinking, hanging out with friends, and the responsibilities of pet ownership, to the complexities of exploring and expressing one's sexual orientation and gender identity.
The guest, who identifies as gay and as a male, delves into the challenges faced while coming out, the reaction from friends and family, and the internal journey of self-acceptance. They recall the initial realization of their attraction to males around the age of 12, an incident at a school camp involving a kiss with a best friend, and the subsequent process of starting over at a new school. Their coming out journey was characterized by changing schools, dealing with gossip, and confronting both support and intolerance.
The recollection extends to the guest's strategy for managing personal relationships without a cellphone, relying on in-person encounters to maintain connections. They discuss the varying behavior in different company, from masculine to more expressive around fellow LGBTQ+ individuals, and the sense of community that formulates through these social dynamics.
When it comes to cultural identity, the individual identifies with Māori heritage and embraces a mix of masculine and feminine expression depending on the social setting. Despite having a support system, they encounter intolerance, particularly from certain family members who remain unaware or non-accepting of their sexual orientation.
The guest also touches on their current relationship, emphasizing the pressures of balancing time with their partner, family, and work commitments. They reflect on a recent conflict related to an ex-best friend's actions and the tensions that arose as a result. The podcast guest admits to the complexity of relationships within the LGBTQ+ community and the difficulties in navigating them.
While discussing relationships, the guest brings forward the topic of virginity — pondering their own views on the matter and how it relates to their sexual experiences and feelings towards intimacy. They express the desire to engage in such experiences with someone they truly care about, highlighting that emotional connection is paramount for them.
The guest has also faced verbal bullying in high school due to their sexuality but has managed to handle situations without resorting to confrontation, demonstrating resilience and self-assurance in the face of adversity. They state that the overall experience hasn't been overly negative and that they have been capable of standing up for themselves when necessary.
The interview concludes with the guest sharing their position on facing abuse over their gender identity or sexuality, reaffirming that high school incidents were isolated and mostly manageable. This podcast provides an intimate look into the personal journey and societal interactions of a young person from the LGBTQ+ community during the 2010s, encapsulating themes of coming out, identity, culture, relationships, and resilience.
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