Horowai(September 2012)

In the podcast "Horowai - Q12," recorded in Manawatū, New Zealand, a young individual by the name of Horowai details their experiences with growing up gay in the 2010s. Horowai, a Māori, delves into their personal life, revealing a multifaceted identity shaped by their sexuality, cultural background, and creative passions.

Horowai speaks candidly about their unique personality, mentioning the doctor's characterization of them as 'gregarious,' although they perceive themself as shy. As a form of self-expression, Horowai engages in musical theater and writing, expressing a particular joy in planning stories. They recall a recent performance of "Little Shop of Horrors" and discuss their love for playing piano and singing, highlighting involvement in the arts as a significant aspect of their life.

Addressing their gender identity and sexuality more directly, Horowai labels themself as male and gay, providing a touching account of a personal journey that began with childhood attraction to males. Despite initial attempts to reject this identity, including an experience that resulted in a pregnancy during their early teens, Horowai eventually embraces their true self. They reflect on the duality of emotions experienced when they were almost a parent at a young age, illustrating the complexities of navigating personal desires versus societal expectations.

Upon discussing coming out, Horowai mentions initially identifying as bisexual as a step towards full acceptance of being gay. They recount the bewildering and sometimes humorous interactions with friends during this period and the mixed reactions that ranged from support to awkwardness. The conversation shifts to social support, where family acceptance plays a pivotal role, with Horowai highlighting a touching revelation from their parents who affirmed unconditional love regardless of their sexuality.

Escaping the metaphorical closet wasn't the only struggle; Horowai also talks about coping with isolation and a lack of visible gay role models in Dannevirke. This absence of community connections led to feelings of loneliness and a slow and cautious approach to engaging with the LGBTQ+ community, mainly through online spaces including a website for Rainbow Youth and a group for gay teens on Facebook.

Relationships and romantic experiences are another focal point of the discussion. Horowai admits to several relationships and muses over the definitions of flings, quick connections, and more profound relationships. They recall a particularly upsetting experience with a former partner, shedding light on the emotional challenges LGBTQ+ youth may face when seeking companionship and love.

Lastly, Horowai does not shy away from discussing the harsher realities of being openly gay, such as encountering abusive behaviors and homophobic bullying, sharing a painful episode of being attacked by senior boys after school.

Throughout the conversation, Horowai reveals a powerful narrative of struggle, self-discovery, and perseverance, navigating through a society learning to accept diverse sexual orientations within a cultural context.

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