Ethan(August 2012)

In an audio recording titled "Ethan - Q12" from August 10, 2012, Ethan shares the experiences of being young and gay in the early 2010s. The podcast, set in New Plymouth, Taranaki, captures Ethan discussing various aspects of their identity and life.

Ethan self-describes as open-minded with a penchant for the arts, music, and auto repair, hinting at a multifaceted personality that defies simple categorization. Their casual demeanor is emphasized by an unorthodox choice of attire - a formal tie paired with non-school-regulation clothing.

The conversation delves into Ethan's participation in specific community groups including car clubs and LGBTQ organizations. Ethan identifies as male and gay, stressing that both their sexual and gender identities align with maleness, and they report a European New Zealand ethnicity.

The discussion transitions to the process of Ethan's self-discovery, beginning with an exploration of bisexuality in 2009 and culminating in the realization of being gay by the end of the following year. Contrary to a strictly Christian upbringing, Ethan embraced the unexpected nature of their attractions.

Ethan's coming out journey underscores the complexities faced. Despite initial concealment due to the likelihood of it being a shock in their small school environment, the disclosure to close friends, select educators described as akin to family, and eventually an open "raging homosexual" identity was met with mixed reactions. Ethan's full disclosure to their family came after they confided in their friends and required a temporary period of moving between friends' homes to allow family members time to adjust.

The interviewer touches on the impact of coming out on relationships with peers and teachers, the majority of whom reacted with surprise yet support. Ethan's revelation to their family prompted a temporary estrangement, but they eventually returned home.

Ethan expresses fulfillment in joining an LGBTQ group, which has become akin to a family. This group attempts to integrate into the broader Taranaki community, offering Ethan a space for belonging and support. Ethan notes that the group, although still finding its place, is seen as valuable and closely-knit.

Regarding relationships, Ethan remarks on having multiple partners, some of whom were not publicly out, creating tensions that sometimes led to the breakdown of those relationships. Ethan advocates for being able to express public displays of affection within reason and depending on the setting.

Meeting others in the LGBTQ community often occurs through the group or through spontaneous social interactions. A known hangout for LGBTQ individuals in Taranaki is hinted at but not explicitly named to preserve privacy.

On the topic of virginity, Ethan takes a traditional stance, defining it as not having had sex, while acknowledging the subjectivity of the concept.

Lastly, Ethan discusses facing homophobic abuse, particularly in school settings, choosing resilience over confrontation. The supportive role of school counselors is highlighted, with Ethan noting how crucial it is for them to be progressive and inclusive, especially supporting LGBTQ youth.

Despite initial fear and nervousness, Ethan concludes the conversation with a sense of liberation after coming out. Free from secrecy and empowered to live authentically, Ethan emphasizes the joy and support found within their community.

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