Ben(March 2012)

This summary reflects the discussion recorded on March 15, 2012, known as "Ben - Q12", in which Ben shares experiences about being young and gay in the early 2010s following a move from Canada to New Zealand. Ben begins by reflecting on the contrast between the climates of Canada and New Zealand, recognizing the significant difference in weather as part of the adjustment to life in New Zealand.

Ben, who identifies as male and gay, opens up about realizing their sexuality at the age of 14 and the challenging journey since. Despite having sensed internal conflict and pressure due to being raised in a Christian home, Ben's father seemed to have an inkling about their sexuality from the start. Conversely, Ben's coming out was more complicated with other family members, leading to a temporary estrangement from home and a shift to living with their supportive father.

The conversation delves into Ben's decision to hide their sexuality from their mother and stepfather until early 2012, when their mother learned the truth through Facebook. The coming-out process was tough; Ben faced negative reactions, particularly from their older sister and mother. This reaction included being kicked out of their home, which sheds light on the difficulties that LGBTQ+ individuals can face within their own families. Despite the challenges, Ben's father remained a source of steady support.

Ben also discusses relationships, highlighting a history of difficult experiences with partners who were unfaithful. Though open about certain relationships with their father, Ben had discretion around other family members and friends. During university years, Ben concealed their sexuality due to concerns about homophobic reactions, choosing to live closeted.

Ben shares the lack of external support during their coming-out journey, mentioning no involvement with organizations supporting LGBTQ+ youth until 2012. The first time they received support from such an organization was Rainbow Youth, with whom Ben was very happy. However, Ben did not attend groups or seek communal support.

The interview further explores Ben's family dynamics. Their siblings had varied responses to their coming out, with the older sister reacting particularly negatively, while their younger siblings were unaware of the situation due to their age.

In a broader context, Ben discusses interests in acting and TV, notably appearing on New Zealand television shows such as "The Mighty Johnsons" and as a character on "Power Rangers," holding a central role as the Red Power Ranger. These experiences reflect a successful stride into the performance industry despite personal struggles.

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