Allia(July 2012)

This podcast features a conversation with Allia, who provides insights into their personal journey as a young pansexual individual in 2012. The discussion unfolds during the Hui Putahi event at Tapu te Ranga Marae in Wellington, focusing on Allia's experiences with foster homes, the complexities of finding acceptance within various communities, and the importance of self-identity and expression.

Allia shares the difficulties of growing up in foster care and the challenges of adapting to different family dynamics and communities. Early in life, they were placed in conservative Christian foster homes, which initially held views not supportive of non-traditional lifestyles. However, Allia explains how these views evolved over time, leading to greater acceptance and understanding.

Attending the Hui Putahi, an event designed to assist students in organizing or maintaining Queer Straight Alliances (QSAs) at their schools, Allia expresses feeling at ease and accepted for the first time. They reflect on the importance of being surrounded by understanding people and the freedom that comes with self-expression, even in the face of familial challenges like having a mother who struggles to understand the concept of pansexuality, which Allia defines as an attraction to personality without regard to gender or physical appearances.

During the podcast, Allia reveals the choice to identify as pansexual, a decision motivated by an inclination to embrace all genders equally. They also recount a pivotal moment of coming out during an argument with their mother, noting the distress caused by their mother's selective acceptance based on gender rather than understanding Allia's true identity.

Allia reflects on the complexities of relationships and the importance of self-discovery before seeking partnerships with others. Despite crushes, they have deliberately chosen to remain single, prioritizing personal growth. They also discuss virginity, suggesting it's not merely a physical concept but encompasses various levels, including emotional virginity tied to not having experienced love.

The conversation touches on the power of internet and social media in forming connections and friendships distinctly from the immediate physical community, which Allia finds unappealing. They recount experiences with school bullying, stressing their resilience and the eventual respect gained from peers upon openly attending school prom with a girl.

The podcast concludes with Allia expressing frustration at the lack of genuine understanding from some family members despite acceptance from friends. They highlight the support found in pets and the ability to find a sense of security and non-judgment with an animal companion.

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