Reclaiming The Dark (Press, 7 May 1984)

In a personal reflection published on 7 May 1984, the author shares her transformation regarding walking in the dark. Initially, she relished these evening strolls, appreciating the sounds and smells that took on new significance in the shadows, as ordinary sights became imbued with a sense of mystery. However, this enjoyment waned due to increasing fears fuelled by pervasive media reports detailing assaults on women in various settings, leading her to feel unsafe venturing out alone. Recognising the shrinking confidence in her ability to navigate her neighbourhood, the author decides to take action by enrolling in a self-defence course for women at the Y.M.C.A. Contrary to her expectations of encountering a radical group, she finds herself in a class with ordinary women from different walks of life, many of whom have faced their own harassment and fears, including nurses, single mothers, and others, all sharing similar trepidations about safety, particularly in darker environments. As the course progresses, the women bond over their experiences of confronting men in threatening situations, ranging from intrusive phone calls to physical violations. The instructor teaches them crucial self-defence techniques and encourages them to transform their fear into assertiveness. The women learn that the typical portrayals of women in distress in media are counterproductive; they are urged to maintain composure, speak directly to their attackers, and express anger instead of helplessness. The course also highlights successful encounters where women effectively deterred would-be attackers through wit and assertiveness rather than physical confrontation. The author recalls stories of women who, using humour or straightforwardness, were able to disarm aggressive individuals, thus reinforcing the idea that confidence and assertiveness can be powerful tools for self-defence. As the class culminates, the participants engage in practical exercises, including being blindfolded and attacked to simulate real-life scenarios. The experience, though daunting, ultimately leaves them feeling empowered and confident. By the end of the course, the author reflects on her renewed sense of safety and Freedom to walk in the dark, grateful for the skills learned in self-defence that have reignited her enjoyment of her evening walks—a previously stolen joy now reclaimed.

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