Constantly Upset By Granny Buckle (Press, 22 May 1982)

Richard Buckle's autobiography, "The Most Upsetting Woman," published in 1981, focuses primarily on his grandmother, Lily Buckle, rather than his renowned career as a ballet critic and author. In the book, Buckle, who gained a C.B.E. in 1979 for his contributions to the ballet world, dedicates himself to recounting the life and influence of his grandmother, a dominant figure throughout his early life, and a well-meaning yet complex character. The title of the book stems from a comment made by a doctor who was touched by Lily's empathetic nature while she nursed young soldiers during World War I. She had a talent for moving people to tears, a trait she applied not only in her nursing but also in her short stories. Despite her sentimental side, she embodied a blend of Victorian values and progressive ideas, having a sharp insight into human nature. Buckle was the cherished grandson of Lily, being the only child of her only son who lost his life in battle in 1918. This loss intensified the bond between Richard and Lily, who mourned the death of her son deeply and had high hopes for her grandson’s potential as a writer. Their relationship is central to the narrative, intertwining their lives as Buckle reflects on his formative years, wartime experiences, and the burden of expectation from his grandmother. As a young man, he engrossed himself in the vibrant cultural life of London, founding the influential magazine "Ballet," a venture his grandmother viewed with skepticism. When World War II broke out, Buckle enlisted despite being a pacifist; his grandmother and her husband supported his decision. His experiences as a soldier in Italy are depicted through a colourful lens, contrasting the beauty of the Italian landscape and art with the harsh realities of war. Buckle's time in the army saw him indulging in the pleasures of life alongside the grim atmosphere of conflict, revealing a duality in his character that combined bravery with an appreciation for aesthetics and relationships. After returning from the war and dealing with the pressures of life in post-war London, Buckle faced numerous personal challenges, including depression and a struggle to settle into serious writing as his grandmother wished. Lily passed away in 1953, leaving behind an indelible mark on Buckle, who took many years and ultimately a personal crisis to begin writing his autobiography. Buckle's work is noted for its engaging and witty style, presenting a valuable reflection on English social history from 1884 to 1953. However, his frequent inclusion of high-society names and acquaintances can sometimes detract from the narrative's flow, making the reading experience a bit erratic at times. The autobiography serves both as a tribute to his beloved grandmother and a personal journey through Buckle's complex life.

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