Literary Views And Reviews (Press, 15 September 1973)

Two significant books on marriage were reviewed, highlighting different perspectives on the institution and its future. "The Future of Marriage" by Jessie Bernard presents a passionate critique of marriage, particularly from a feminist viewpoint, arguing that traditional marriage structures favour men while restricting women's health, independence, and happiness. Bernard draws on her experiences with the Women’s Liberation movement, asserting that societal norms unfairly celebrate men's roles in marriage while diminishing the significance of women's contributions. She suggests that married women often face a stifling security without the compensations of excitement and independence, unlike their single counterparts. Bernard explores the tensions within marriage between freedom and security, and she predicts that the future of marriage will not be absolute but will evolve into a spectrum of arrangements, accommodating varied commitments and definitions of fidelity. She believes this evolution reflects a shift in societal expectations, where marriage may accommodate new lifestyles, such as communal living and group marriages, if designed thoughtfully. In contrast, Carl R. Rogers’ "Becoming Partners" takes a more subjective and personal approach to understanding marriage. Rogers presents a collection of testimonials from diverse individuals, allowing their voices to reveal the complexities and dynamics of their marital experiences without imposing judgments on their success or failure. He highlights marriage as a process of growth and change, rather than a static institution, and emphasises the importance of continuous effort, emotional openness, and individuality within relationships. According to Rogers, the key to a fulfilling marriage involves commitment to collaboration, honest expression of feelings, and the courage to break free from societal expectations. He advocates for the need to rethink and develop marriage education, lamenting that young people are often unprepared for the realities of marital life, as evidenced by high divorce rates, particularly in America. Both authors posit that marriage, while facing challenges, holds potential for a myriad of futures, adapting to societal changes and personal needs. Bernard calls for the prioritisation of women's roles within marriage, while Rogers urges a more flexible understanding of marriage as an evolving journey rather than a fixed point. Both books collectively challenge readers to reconsider their perceptions of marriage and to recognise the necessity for growth, learning, and adjustment within their relationships.

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