Missy

In this interview, Missy shares personal experiences of being non-binary and navigating the spectrum between pansexuality and demisexuality over the decades from the 1990s to the 2010s.

During the interview, Missy reflects on the differing perceptions and levels of awareness regarding gender and sexuality in the United States and New Zealand. In Southern California, where they previously resided, Missy felt that the understanding of transgender issues was more common but chose to identify as a lesbian for convenience, despite feeling more connected to pansexuality. In New Zealand, the concepts seemed less familiar to the general populace, despite legislative progressiveness evidenced by the presence of a transgender person in Parliament.

Missy discusses involvement in the queer community both in California, through participation in the Gay-Straight Alliance during high school, and in New Zealand, where they note that the queer community can be difficult to penetrate without knowing the 'right' people. However, Missy highlights their active individual advocating role in educating others on a personal level about queer and non-binary experiences.

Encounters with acceptance and resistance within various environments are also described. Missy talks about the reluctance to educate others but stresses the importance of representation and rejecting stereotypes in fostering a better understanding of the queer community. Work environments in both countries are compared; Missy shares the relative safety and acceptance in New Zealand contrasting with the litigious and less accommodating nature of the United States.

Personal anecdotes reveal the nuances of coming out. Missy recounts experiences of coming out at school and to their parents, discussing both the humor and the challenges of these revelations. There's an acknowledgment that coming out can be a nuanced and repetitive process, especially when relocating to a new country.

The concept of gatekeeping within the queer community is critiqued, pointing out how certain people are excluded or deemed 'not queer enough,' which Missy finds frustrating and invalidating. There’s an emphasis on fluidity and the legitimacy of shifting sexual and gender identities over time, encouraging individuals to embrace and express their evolving selves freely.

Throughout the conversation, Missy touches on experiencing and handling homophobia, advocating for safe spaces, and offering heartfelt advice to queer youth navigating their identities. They urge members of the queer community to be kind and welcoming, and for the broader community to genuinely support young individuals coming out.

The recording provides insight into the broader themes of identity, belonging, and community acceptance while addressing societal challenges and the transformative power of self-identification and representation. Missy's narrative underscores the importance of recognizing and respecting the diversity of experiences within the LGBTQ+ community.

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