Session 8

The audio titled "Session 8 - Beyond Conference" was recorded at Wellington High School on October 12, 2013. The engaging and personal session focused on the interplay between parenting and queer identity. One of the panelists, known by the moniker Squad, delved into their life story, starting with a Mormon upbringing and transitioning into a queer parent of two. They spoke candidly about the tension between these dual identities and the challenges and criticisms faced from both within and outside the queer community. These included accusations of conforming to heteronormative models of family, questioning the need for more children in the world, and dealing with the reactions of others upon learning about their queerness. The speaker had also faced biphobia and prejudice, even within queer spaces, and talked about the subtle ways they queer their family life, including naming their children after transgressive female figures and avoiding traditional symbols of romantic attachment.

The panel also featured participants talking about their experiences of parenting in queer relationships, with one explaining how they and their two male partners have seven children with various lesbian couples, and how they navigate the financial aspects and parental responsibilities in such setups. Another speaker, Joe, recounted their life story, detailing their marriage to a Māori man, their discovery and exploration of queer identity, and the nurturing and acceptance within their extended rainbow family context. They touched upon the importance of open and honest communication with children about one's queer identity, the potential for children to face prejudice and stigma, yet the resilience fostered in an inclusive environment.

As the session unfolded with personal anecdotes and reflections, the discussions also encompassed broader societal issues such as biphobia and transphobia within and outside the queer community, the need for honest conversations within families about queer identities, and how essential and transformative acceptance and inclusivity within families can be for children.

The presentation ended with an open floor for questions and discussions. Audience members shared their experiences and sought advice on maintaining their queer identity within the heteronormative context of family life. Some spoke about the subtle ways of normalizing queerness in their household, while others shared their strategies for managing negative or hostile reactions from outside communities. The session closed with acknowledgments and continued discussions of adjacent topics like marriage equality.

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