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We here with Scott? Um hi. Um, could you tell us a little bit about yourself? Because I'm Mandarin speaker. So I do want to help. Like Asian people who I mean out there being gay. Being coming out is fine. I mean, even you Asian. You have Asian family. OK, Um um [00:00:30] um um [00:01:00] be your, um [00:01:30] So, um, me being gay is I mean, you still can have your own Children. I mean, I mean, [00:02:00] biological Children, so OK to adopt. Um, OK, I have no idea what you just, uh, just like my my family's reaction, and being gay is fine. The kind of can also, um, have you done first? The first one. how old are you? Uh um I'm [00:02:30] 20. What I should say, Um what gender identity. Um what what gender do you identify with I male. Um, what's your sexuality or homosexual? Uh, some. Yeah. When did you realise that you were OK? Um um I when I was like, um and 13. Technically, [00:03:00] like when I was a kid. Like I didn't know the concept of being gay, so I didn't know they were gay after when I was 12. 13 people like, mentioned that they work and I feel like that's me. [00:03:30] OK, how did you feel when you realised, um at first I didn't. I mean, I feel just not really a shock, because this that's the fact. And at first I was like, I was [00:04:00] I was a kid, so I didn't have I didn't know the social pressures. And so, uh, so that's a fact. That's a fact. So I don't feel like it's sad or good or something. I feel like, OK, I'm going to girls. But it's kind of help my parents don't have to worry about. Like I can get, like, teenage pregnancy. So, um, why wouldn't he, um Did you feel that you had to keep it a secret [00:04:30] at first? Yeah, I thought I mean, like, at first, Like I thought, like, I don't want to talk about like, um gay about with my parents. And first time my parents like Asian [00:05:00] parents. They don't talk. Um, well, the parents they are liberal. They talked about, I mean sex when I was a kid. I mean, they kind of want to be liberal to teach me about sex or every everything that's still like. It's kind of awkward to to tell them. Um, I'm gay, and I love gay sex. [00:05:30] Anyway, um, at first, like, I think parents, they want to help you. They always have one. Doesn't matter. You're gay or not. They even sexual problem, like, sexually, like those kind of problem. Like they still want to help you. [00:06:00] So the the thing is, my parents, um, eventually, I think telling parents you're gay is is the best way to go because they could be very not supportive. But at least they they love you as who you are. So you should embrace that. I should feel I should know that. I mean, don't get feel scared. I mean, [00:06:30] I mean, so, I mean, maybe they could be not supportive. Um, but they still can educate them. Like being gay is as natural as is. It cannot change it, so yeah, it's not a choice. Um, so you've come down as a closet? Oh, yes. Sure. Who have you came out of the closet too? Um, on, um, [00:07:00] on everyone I know. So ba basically family friends and I mean student other classmates, Um, from uni from high school. Yeah, um how did they react [00:07:30] at first? Like they thought. I mean, of course, Like to my parents family, They like It was it was a shock, like the shocking news, like, But they thought my cousin like, was gay, but he was He was just metrosexual. Yeah. Um, so, like, um, my family, I mean, it took a while to explain the concept of gay and this natural. This is, um it's not a disease. It [00:08:00] is meant to be. And they actually they took me to the doctor. I mean, and to check that, but but the doctor, Because my my parents, my family, they will live in. I mean, in China. So, uh, when the Chinese, um, doctor, like act actually surprising. They say it's normal. Surprising. I mean, they are so professional. I mean, even I mean, Asian doctors. I mean, they say being gay is normal. It's it's it's not disease. It should be supportive to my parents that a family that that's what they said to my family, that's that's really [00:08:30] a good I mean, it was good news, and that means, like, I mean, I think could be fine. I mean, very good fine in the future right now in Asia, so OK, [00:09:00] Um, [00:09:30] so, um [00:10:00] um, so my promise my parents will have I will have kids and do want kids in the future, right? So it's not a problem there, so yeah, So I think a problem like gay being gay, like in Asia, especially in China, Taiwan. And it could be a little bit like, easier than like Like I mean, the other countries are New Zealand, Maybe not New Zealand, but [00:10:30] like European culture, like Christian Christian culture, because we the Asian, they don't have the concept of being gay is a sin. So and the thing is, as long as you have a kid, I mean, it doesn't matter who you are. You have a kid in the future. So I mean, we have the technology, so it's not really a huge problem. So that's what I think. That's what a lot of gay and they think that's what that's what a lot of what they are thinking. But they were They are afraid of the social like pressure, so [00:11:00] they didn't come out. But I think coming out is way better, even even in your own country. homeland. Yeah. OK, um, what was the support? Did you get Oh, sorry. Did you get Did you have any? What's wrong with me today? Luckily, I'm good at editing. Um um, OK, we'll sign the interview right now. Um, did you get any support when you were coming out or when you were realising, um what [00:11:30] I mean, you as an Ackland like, um, a New Zealand like organisation that helped, like gay people coming out and help them. I mean, gay people generally, so, um, I generally I got support from you. Um, you Thank you. [00:12:00] Um [00:12:30] I mean, the you did help Me too. I have. I mean, to build my confidence to come out. So you definitely is the biggest support like to me. And you can the whole, um you mean I mean, no, she will tell you [00:13:00] now. Feel like there are other guys in the world, Not just me. Yeah. Um have you been in a relationship before? No. No. Ok, Has you been out affected? The reason why you haven't been in a relationship, um affect it? I mean, I mean, coming out. [00:13:30] Nothing. Really? Yeah. Nothing. It's like mayo. Uh, ok, um how do you meet other people? Um, meet other people. Uh, I I meet, um I mean, I meet people like through member youth and other gay social groups, not family bar, family. I mean, family, family bar is a good way. I mean, sometimes, uh, like gay community is generally they help. I mean, they [00:14:00] have all all kinds, like organisation and to help you to come out and meet other people like normal person, like making friends. So, um [00:14:30] um hi, that those organisations that can help people to make some gay friends like, normal [00:15:00] way. So it's really a good way to to help gay people. I mean, gay social groups. Ok, um, are you a virgin? No. Um, OK. Have you experienced any abuse or abusive behaviour because of your sexuality or gender identity and not too much like just I mean in my life in school, like or somewhere it's not too much. Just maybe, maybe in my life, [00:15:30] kind of really just I mean, I don't know, but not too much, really. I mean, it's the school pretty. I mean good. The people I've met, they're really nice. Maybe, but not too much really? Um [00:16:00] um [00:16:30] mean, I'm still the same person. I mean, before coming out. I mean, like, I mean, even same same person, so it doesn't I mean, coming out doesn't affect you too much, because in my school, like my like, my family, they are being supportive. So I don't get too much like, um, abuse from, um, from homophobic people. Um, [00:17:00] so but I do. I did. I mean met some people, like people from the street, or they call us fag or something. It's I mean, that's another effort that you shouldn't say, but but the thing is, I mean, you have to I mean, firstly, if they are not educated, they're just being rude. I mean, what you can do is ignore them, because if they because being you are educated you you, you have I mean, you don't want to get [00:17:30] I mean, get into get into a fight. I mean, a fight and to to be I mean to to to to protect them. I mean, the homosexuality, because, I mean, they they don't They are the educators. So why you have to make fights, I mean to to, like, do the same thing to do the I mean group thing to them as well. Ok, um, but if they do something further, like just they, they they gonna fight the puncture or do something further. I. [00:18:00] I saw that, um, if they punch you, all you do is fight back like a normal person. Because the law can protect protect us as well. So, um so, um, [00:18:30] take the [00:19:00] I mean, so like, yeah, So, um, they feel they should fight, fight back if they do do something serious. So you don't have I mean I mean, yeah. OK, um, do you have any more comments or would you like me? Would you like to ask me? [00:19:30] Would you like me to ask you a question? Thank you for the interview. Thank you. See you.
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